Today is our anniversary! Maurice and I have had 25 wonderful years of building a life together and raising our family together. The years have passed quickly, it seems like only yesterday we were a young couple just trying to figure out the basics of being married and starting a life together.
Looking back over these 25 years brings such a mixture of emotions. We have changed. Together we have grown up quite a bit, matured as spouses and individuals, learned a lot about each other and learned to parent together. We’ve taken on new interests, we’ve come to know Jesus, and we’ve learned what it means to love more deeply each day.
These 25 years haven’t always been a piece of cake. We’ve had our struggles over the years.
We didn’t have much money when we first had children and would have garage sales to earn extra cash to provide for the kids. We learned from that experience the importance of being financially prepared for the unexpected.
The birth of our first child, Andy, was traumatic. It left me weak and exhausted and left Andy in the hospital for 11 days in intensive care. The birth of our second child, Mike, was easier. Raising children wasn’t at all what we anticipated, easy at times, difficult at others. No handbook to follow, we had to lean into each other and stumble along, hoping we didn’t mess them up too much.
A traumatic brain injury for my mom had me traveling back and forth to help care for her. And her later illness, which took her life, had me again traveling back and forth to help care for her. My fight with cancer also brought new challenges for our family. Through these illness we saw God strengthen and grow our faith as He firmed up the foundation of our lives. Holding us together as we struggled with the logistics of it all.
We have built a strong foundation over 25 years. We’ve learned to talk, ask good questions and to take time to listen to one another. We’ve learned to compromise and to accept that we might not always agree. We’ve learned to work together and to play together. We enjoy some of the same interests, but we’ve also learned it’s ok to have separate interests. We make each other better. We can be silly together, laughing at each others antics. We have seen the importance of faith in our relationship.
We’ve learned that keeping Christ at the center of our marriage keeps our marital foundation strong. In Christ we are stronger and can withstand the storms life brings our way. He is our foundation. He is our strength and He is our example on how to love.
I love Maurice more today than I did 25 years ago. I am so grateful God has blessed me with such a loving spouse, partner and friend. I look forward to spending many more years together as we explore the next chapter of our lives. With Jesus as our guide and foundation it will surely be an adventure.